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We all know how hard it can be in the tough times, to reach out to those
around us and ask for help. Sometimes one of the most difficult things in
life can be just admitting that we are not coping and that we need support. When a friend is going through a crisis and could use a good friends, try one of these tactics to offer support.
Be There
If your friend is going through something really tough like a divorce, a
death in the family, a medical condition, or the loss of a job or serious financial worries, the
best thing that you can do is to remind them that you are there. Painful
times in life are very isolating so you will want to make sure that you
make contact and let her know that you are there for anything that she, or
he, needs. Once you reach out initially, follow up. Don't go radio silent. Leave a voice mail or send a text message to let your friend know that he/she is on your mind. It will go a long way to help cheering her up.
Make Them Feel Special
Sometimes it is easy to forget that we are loved and that those around us
really do care. So why not think about something thoughtful, or a little
bit special, that you can do for to let a friend know how much you care. Perhaps you can send a little gift
with our aloha Hawaiian flowers and gifts or maybe you can arrange a nice, relaxing day out together for the two of
you. A bit of window shopping with a lunch thrown in, or an afternoon
walking on the beach or in a park with a picnic, or perhaps even a day at a local
spa so you can make her feel really
pampered and indulged
.
Just Listen
Sometimes there are no magic words in life and
the only thing we can do is offer an ear and a shoulder and let people share their problems and work through their
emotions and issues. People need to unleash and release their problems at
different times, so try not to push someone to talk until they are ready.
Simply communicating concern and showing that you are there is enough to
let your friend know that she has a true friend to confide in as and when
she is ready.
Emotional Support
Emotionally supporting friends that are helping a friend in a moment of crisis can feel as if they are offering very little support. It is easy to feel rather useless as there doesn’t
seem to be anything that you can do to make their situation better. However
emotional support is one of the most important things that we can give and
receive in life so being generous with emotional support is a gift in
itself. Try not to bring too much of your
own judgement or negative opinions into your friend's situation. Focus on your friend and keep your own negative, personal
stories to yourself. Keep in mind that you are there to provide love and support whenever your friend
needs you. A friend in need is a friend indeed, after all.
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